Being recalcitrant is mostly perceived as a bad trait. This form of stubbornness and stubbornness can also have good sides. We go over the d...
Children and young people are often described as recalcitrant when they behave disrespectfully towards teachers and adults.
Perhaps you have already met a person at work who attracted attention with their negative attitude and cheeky manner. In the following, we explain things worth knowing about resilience and how you can recognize this behavior.
Meaning of "Unruly"
You've probably heard the word resilience before but probably didn't know much about it. You are not alone in this, because only a few know what exactly is behind the term and when a behavior is described as recalcitrant.
Origin and Meaning
Recalcitrant is the appropriate adjective for the noun recalcitrant. Both terms found their way into German via the French language. The French adjective "rénitent" goes back to the Latin "reniti", which means "to oppose".
As synonyms for recalcitrant, you can use stubborn, stubborn, stubborn, stubborn, protesting, stubborn, obstinate, stubborn, defiant, or stubborn. Recalcitrance, in turn, describes a behavior that is expressed through obstinacy or rebellion against applicable customs, customs, or rules.
If you adopt a recalcitrant attitude, you stubbornly resist the will, desires, or direction of others. Those who are recalcitrant often deliberately speak polemically, i.e. with a lot of irony and sarcasm.
Polemics - also referred to as the art of arguing - are usually sharp arguments about political, religious, literary, or other socially important issues.
In the past, subordinates who resisted secular or ecclesiastical authority were described as recalcitrant. Especially in the military and on ships, rebellious behavior was usually severely punished, sometimes with death.
Today the term is mainly used in its pedagogical meaning when children and young people are described as recalcitrant. In general, recalcitrance stands for undesirable social behavior that is punished if it persists for a long time.
How do you recognize stubborn behavior?
There are several typical behaviors that you can use to tell if your counterpart is recalcitrant. Recalcitrant people stubbornly stand up for their beliefs and stick to their opinions, even if they are factually incorrect or only partially correct. Often, on principle, they position themselves contrary to the prevailing opinion because they want to provoke.
Those who are recalcitrant usually reject the attitude of the general public in advance and cannot be swayed by well-intentioned suggestions and attempts at mediation. Arguments are weakened by partly nonsensical counter-arguments, and the recalcitrant personality is only rarely willing to compromise.
The behavior comes across as stubborn and stubborn to others, so people with this trait are not very popular. Problems arise especially at work because the negative and provocative attitude regularly leads to conflicts in the team and with the managers.
You can also tell whether someone is recalcitrant by the way they express themselves. A typical sign of defiance is a polemical language with a lot of irony and sarcasm. Recalcitrant people love language duels and do not shy away from any verbal argument. Even threatened penalties often have little or no effect.
Positive aspects of defiance
Recalcitrance is perceived primarily negatively, but this behavior also has its good sides. Depending on the situation, it is sometimes important not to blindly follow every instruction.
It is part of the work of trade unions, for example, to stand up to powerful corporate management in order to achieve something for certain interest groups.
Opposition is also indispensable in politics. Only through political discourse do solutions emerge that bring benefits to a large part of the population. For this reason, politicians often appear recalcitrant and stick to their opinions in the face of great resistance.
If you stick to your own values and don't betray your convictions when the first headwind hits you, this is not only recalcitrant but also a sign of mental strength. Courage and moral courage are important qualities that are essential, for example, in the fight for fairness and tolerance.
To a certain extent, rebelliousness is therefore something positive. Sometimes in the fight for one's own beliefs, it is necessary to offend other people. Because whoever stays silent will never achieve anything.
Important: There are limits, however, which you should accept. Recalcitrance is only justifiable as long as no one is harmed.
Different meanings of defiance
We have described in detail above what the word resilience means. Here you can find out what the term means in different areas.
Recalcitrant children and young people
The adjective recalcitrant is now mostly used in an educational context. If we are talking about recalcitrant children and young people, this usually refers to the disrespectful treatment of parents, teachers, and other adults.
Children and young people are considered recalcitrant if they stubbornly resist the will and instructions of adults. They deliberately don't follow any rules and want to provoke their behavior.
Her stubborn and unruly demeanor is considered to be typically recalcitrant. Young people often emphasize their provocative attitude with conspicuous clothing, brightly colored hair, or clearly visible piercings.
Her language is also strikingly cheeky. Sometimes the adolescents express themselves polemically in order to ridicule the efforts of the adults.
Resilience as a basic attitude
Recalcitrance can establish itself as a basic attitude beyond adolescence or only develop in adulthood. The behavior of highly recalcitrant people is characterized by the constant attitude "I'm against it!" and the constant endeavor to position oneself in defiance of prevailing opinions and perspectives.
Those who are recalcitrant like to criticize and feel superior to others. It is not uncommon for this behavior to have disadvantages in private life and at work. Because recalcitrant people are unpopular because they constantly offend and offend others with their stubbornness and stubbornness.
Unruly behavior is also a typical characteristic of troublemakers.
Denial of law and order
In general usage, the noun defiance has recently been used for behavior that refuses law and order. In this case, the word is a combat term against people and institutions that represent the state.
The term is used for authorities who, in their own opinion, do not comply with legal requirements. In this context, there is often talk of recalcitrant prison authorities and courts.
Resilience at work
There are people who behave recalcitrant at work but are completely inconspicuous in their private life. This often hides disappointed expectations that lead to a kind of denial.
Here, too, rebelliousness is expressed through rebelliousness and obstinacy, which is why recalcitrant employees are a real challenge for managers. In some cases, the negative attitude is transferred to the whole work, so working together in a team is also difficult. Sometimes, however, the resistance only relates to the company management.
Recalcitrant workers like to undermine their manager's authority, disrupt processes and sap a lot of time and energy with their rebellion. In their stubborn fight for supposed justice, they know no bounds, which is why they often stir up entire teams. Behavior towards superiors is disrespectful and presumptuous.
Recalcitrant in the polemical sense
The term polemic has undergone a change of meaning over the centuries. The word used to be used primarily for a language duel between two educated personalities in high language. The war of words was carried out as a factual argument, for example in literary studies.
Today, polemics tend to be viewed as something bad, because arguments often leave the factual level in order to embarrass and ridicule the interlocutor. Many politicians speak polemically to weaken the position of the other parties.
Recalcitrant people also often speak polemically. They use a lot of irony and sarcasm to tease and ridicule their counterpart. In contrast to the past, verbal battles are no longer just factual, but also on a personal level.
Factual arguments only serve to cast doubt on the credibility of the other party and to further weaken it. The aim of Renitenz is to assert one's own opinion at any price.
Did you know? Since no agreement is sought, the tone of the argument is polemical: the dispute is intended to be hurtful.
Tips for dealing with recalcitrant people
If you are dealing with a person who is unruly towards you, you should not allow yourself to be provoked. Repaying like for like rarely leads to a solution. Here you will find helpful tips on how to react to stubborn resentment.
Get to the bottom of the cause
Few people behave rebelliously for no reason. When you encounter resentment, it's often just a symptom of a deeper problem. In order to solve the conflict, you have to get to the bottom of the causes and identify the actual problem.
Stubbornness and stubbornness can be signs of existing grievances. At work, for example, this could be a promotion that was unfairly denied, in private life it could be a lack of appreciation from your partner. Experienced injustice can be a reason for resentment.
Some people have a general problem with authorities, but here too there is usually a trigger why the person behaves in a remarkably recalcitrant manner.
Humans are social beings and have a natural need for recognition. If there is no sense in an activity, this can also lead to resentment. The same applies to too little personal responsibility and freedom.
Analyze your own attitude
The next step is to do some self-reflection and honestly analyze your own attitude. Because your behavior can be one of the reasons for the rebelliousness of your counterpart.
Perhaps you find it difficult to work together or in a partnership on an equal footing and subconsciously suppress your counterpart. Because not every contradiction is recalcitrant. Sometimes the negative attitude is justified and serves self-protection.
In addition, there are always people in your circle of friends, relatives, and colleagues who you like less than others. If you don't like someone, the other person will sense it and react to it in a stubborn and stubborn manner.
Being too good-natured can also fuel recalcitrant behavior. If you act consistently and confidently from the start and set clear rules, you take the wind out of the sails of recalcitrant people and prevent further provocations and fights.
If part of the conflict is your attitude, you should do something about it to defuse the argument.
Respond coolly and calmly to defiance
Don't let disrespectful behavior spoil your mood by taking it personally. If the other person feels your vulnerability, this usually leads to even more rebelliousness and rebelliousness.
If the cause of rebelliousness lies outside of you, you can do little to change the condition. When people around you misbehave, it rarely has anything to do with you personally.
Sometimes, however, rebellious behavior is designed to hurt or humiliate you.
It is best to ignore unruly behavior and let it bounce off you. If the other person behaves extremely rebelliously and disrespectfully in a situation, you should walk away if possible and let the behavior come to nothing.
Even at work, you have the right to defend yourself against stubborn defiance. Politely but firmly point out that you will not put up with such behavior. You should end conversations before they escalate. You can also use an excuse and, for example, put forward an important phone call.
If you cannot escape from a situation, it helps to flee to the front. In this case, you should confront the troublemaker with incredulous questions related to what was said. Make it clear that you can't believe what the other person just said or asked.
Tip: By holding the other person up in the mirror and addressing them directly about their behavior, you throw them off and give them a chance to tone down what you're saying.
Find the clarifying conversation
If a person behaves intractably for a longer period of time, it is time for a clarifying conversation. The discussion should take place in a calm and relaxed atmosphere with a certain time interval to an argument so that tempers have calmed down again.
Talk to the person directly about a specific conflict situation and ask why they behaved so stubbornly at the moment and what they hope to gain from it. Be sure to remain friends, even if you feel a new rebelliousness burgeoning. Encourage the person to explain their point of view. Even if it gets very emotional, you should remain calm and listen carefully.
Then insist on your right to state your point of view. Since verbal attacks lead to even more aggression, you should argue objectively and calmly. Emphasize in the form of I-messages what effect the recalcitrant behavior has on you.
A clarifying conversation often helps to clear up misunderstandings and resolve a conflict. Even if your counterpart shows understanding, peace can only be short-lived.
That's why you should arrange a follow-up appointment to check whether the resentment has actually stopped during the first meeting.
Draw your conclusions
If the resistance against you persists despite a clarifying conversation or even worsens, you should take the consequences.
At work, you can contact your manager, the HR department, or the works council with your problem. Often only the threat of serious employment law consequences helps to permanently end unruly behavior. At school, the school management is the right place to go to put recalcitrant adolescents in their place.
If all else fails, you can either ask to be transferred to another department or suggest that the troublemaker be transferred. In any case, you should find a solution before the conflict leads to health problems for you.
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